Xtine Knows Stuff: Blogging (The Pussy Approach to Confrontation)
January 14th, 2008
How destructive can blogs be to life? —BloggerDose
Let me tell you sweetie, pretty fucking destructive. Obviously there are blogs (such as the one you are reading) that can’t really affect you, as the premise isn’t too personal, but the second you start typing about your personal life and sorrows, you’re asking for it, big time. Publicly posting anything that has to do with your “real life” (meaning outside your internet persona) is just as smart as screaming your secrets on top a table at the food court. Yet, people do this all the time. Why? I’ve got my theories. Actually, about three of them:
1) It’s the easiest way to confront an issue without really confronting anything. The only thing worse than blatantly posting about your depressing life is when you do it cryptically, like the parties involved aren’t going to know you’re talking about them. for example:
Some people are just SO rude! I mean, real friends don’t steal boys that I like, especially if I already told him how good his record collection is. I can’t believe she would do this to me, especially after I promised not to tell anyone about her raging case of herpes that she got from that crazy gang bang three nights ago.
First off, no one cares. Seriously, I know I don’t. And I can guarantee that your friend is going to know you wrote that about her, regardless if you left her name out or not. People will assume they know who you’re talking about, and most likely they’ll be right. In fact, your whole pity party will be canceled when people see how big of a brat you are by posting personal jargon just because some guy doesn’t like you. You would officially become untrustworthy just because you wanted people to comment sad faces and “aww, poor you”.
2) People want compassion and understanding. There is nothing wrong with that; however, I do suggest writing it down privately or securing a small circle of trust with your close friends that are adult enough to keep their fat mouths shut. You can usually find these people outside of drama and social functions. I would suggest not ever trusting a boy-crazy girl who tends to talk about herself and other people’s business rather than anything that holds any merit.
3) They think that what they’re saying is important. It may be important to you to talk about personal issues regarding boys and bad friends and drug problems, but really, it’s not flattering. Be a better person by not letting the small stuff get to you. So your friend turns out to be real shitty - don’t make the same mistake again. Suck it up and move on, there are plenty more people in this world to hold close. I know the animosity of calling someone out publicly makes you feel tough, but you look like an idiot. If you have a real issue, be an adult and either get over it, or confront the bastard face to face.
Blogs can be very destructive if you set yourself up for it. Blog smart and you shouldn’t have issues about your life being discussed at the next social function. Don’t blog at all, and trust me, you’ll have a lot less to worry about.
